Money and Relationships?

Have you heard of this saying, ‘do not mix business with women?’ I think we should have one that goes like do not ‘mix money and relationships?’ Lately, I have been thinking about something that three of my friends have been going through and I would like to hear your thoughts on it. Before I continue, ladies would you give your man, I mean boyfriend money for whatever reason? We find that most ladies will give a negative response to this question probably from an experience but some few others will try and give an answer like, ‘yes if only he is need’. I really do not know what defines the need aspect.
It is not uncommon after a break to hear ladies complaining about how they gave their men money which was not refunded. Others complain about how they went out and ended paying for dinner and generally took care of their men! When asked why they did that, all they can say is that they really loved the person. I really don’t think it is alright for people in relationships to be borrowing money from each other especially in dating stage. If in marriage, I think it is just fine. But in this day and age, money seems to be what holds relationships. Catch me dead asking money from a man! What happened to the men who would rather ask money from their friends rather than their girlfriends anyway? What with the increasing number of men who are now looking up to women for financial support? Why?


Women, why do you give men money? What are you trying to prove to him? Are you trying to make him stay? It’s really annoying when a woman tells you how she did everything for her man and he left, how she took care of him, neglected herself and even her family because she gave him her money, and what really irks me is a campus girl who tells you how she lied to her parents about a week long trip to Mombasa in order to get that extra cash to spare for her boyfriend. This is no longer love my friend, but it is insecurity. A relationship should involve people who can take care of themselves and by that I mean people who are responsible. Some partners are really good at taking advantage of others’ generosity and it is important to set boundaries because money has been known as the reason many relationships ended.
In my opinion, a man will not ask for cash from a woman he loves. Same as women will not ask for cash from the man they love. Sorry guys, but if she been asking for money from you, you are just but a walking ATM to her. .


7 thoughts on “Money and Relationships?

  1. I think first of all parties should not ask each other for money especially if it involves issues like paying debts e.t.c they should get it from somewhere else.

    Both parties should spend on each other instead of asking or giving money to each other.This spending should be relationship related.
    Instead of giving him/her money just spend on him or her fairly if both y’all love each other, where one party does not feel like he/she is the one is focusing on the relationship, but where both parties are in this sh*t together… Like one day the chic can decide to take her man out and on another day the man will do the same,like that ,on and on different venues,different activities.
    This relationship will blossom,money was involved positively ,indirectly,but indeed romantically.

    1. Yeah if He loves her,he will do that for her if he is capable,provided she does not take him for granted and later leave him, because she has already got what she wanted… like the she should be a (ROD)ride or die chic…

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