A single mother, is still a mother.

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“That is my opinion” i believe we have all had that moment in an argument where things get heated up and almost out of control and that is the only statement that can be used to avoid offending the other participants.
Well today, there was this discussion on single mothers on twitter. Whatever the cause of a woman being a single mother, i strongly believe that a mother should be respected. What with the hustle of raising a child and providing for the child?  Nobody has a right to pick on single mothers even if you are brought up in the “perfect nuclear family”. Your sister could become one too so i think it would be alright if we respected these single mothers as i believe you would not enjoy somebody somewhere insulting your sister..or would you?

Another reason to respect a single mother is the fact that she agreed to carry the baby in her womb and did not carry out an abortion. This goes out to the young single mothers out there, in a society where getting pregnant at a young age draws a lot of views but you choose to have the child, RESPECT .

There are single mothers who have brought up better kids who are doing good things for the society, single mums who are financially stable.

As i started by saying, everybody is entittled to their opinion, here is what some people had to say on single mothers… as i was reading them i was hoping that some of them were just jokes ( mmmhhh jokes in a bad taste) 

-Marrying a single mother is like wifing a hoe. The difference is that the single mother is a hoe with a child
-How you ended up being a single mother doesn’t matter, it’s how you raise your child that
counts
-Being a single mother is nothing to be proud of if you’re still in your 20s
– what if the man refused to take responsibility? divorced? or just didn’t work out? watototo wangetupwa ndio kusikue single mother ?
– Difference btwn u & that single mum is that she was human enough 2 keep the baby yet u aborted yours or took P2s on the rest. who’s the hoe?
– IMO, If you are a Single Mum Just Make Sure You Can Sustain Yourself. Or else u are headed for whoreness.

Well, what is your opinion on being a single mother? I still stand at every mother should be respected, how they became mothers, not withstanding…. because “kesho you never know“.

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I Am A Woman & I Work Hard

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It  has  been a moment of transition in the society. Being a woman in the kenyan society can really pose a challenge to any woman who is unsure of how she should carry herself especially in public. This is due to the perception by the kenyan men of how an ideal woman should be, like the discrimination of darker skinned women in preference to lighter skinned women: the war between darkskins and lightskin women .The wife material, the side chiq material as they are commonly known on social sites,  The wife material mostly is that woman who faithfully goes to church in a long skirt whereas the side chiq is that woman who will be having a terrible hang over on a sunday morning after a night out.  We have seen women conforming to  some standards  set  by  people who  should not  even  have a say in their lives. story for another day.

Talking from a sociologists view i am glad that there are women who have refused to be defined by the society and have taken up their own paths.  They are no longer confined by the traditions to be housewives but they are allowed to chose their own paths. Those are the kind of women i will talk about today.

I am particularly touching on young women who have worked their way up to the top.  Its not uncommon for us to see a young successful lady and somebody somewhere raises their voice to tell the rest that she is kept and there is no hardwork in what she is.  I really don’t like  it when men and  to  some  extreems  women  
make  such allusions .

Dear men, hear  me when i tell you this, there are women who have goals and work towards them, women who do not depend on men, women who wake up early and go to sleep late in the evening just to ensure that they are a step closer to their dreams, women who will deny themselves the pleasures of a moment eyeing that of a life time.

And to my fellow women  appreciate other women who are making it, let us not be the source of another womans downfall as the saying  goes, the enemy of a woman is a woman. So before you accuse a woman on how she got to the top,
think … real hard.